sitting in a coffeeshop listening to the oversharing old man next to me (writer, from new york, wants to “go with [his] best self”) chat with two super lesbians (shaved head, gauged ears, bourbon-bottle jaws) sharing his table, deciding to go to russian house. how is your day?
My friend Adam Serwer once made the astute observation that most white people “can only relate to racial discrimination in the abstract. What white people can relate to is the fear of being unjustly accused of racism.” The lesson translates to cases of sexual assault and harassment. Those of us who have been forced to personally cope with powerful men behaving badly are certain that the accusers in these situations are worth listening to. “These are not stories we tell for fun, attention or revenge,” tweeted Lena Dunham. There are many women like us working in media, but we’re outnumbered — or definitely outranked — by men who are inclined to relate to the experience of being accused.